It is said that in times of individualism, the apartments with many rooms separate the family union, the life is busy and rushed, but not all young people completely ignore their filial piety while its expression does not change much.
In today’s busy life, filial piety does not necessarily depend on the circumstances and living conditions but on the consciousness of each person. In the family of a young man, his mother live with his family, so he usually teach his children how to treat his mother. His son, every night before going to bed, always wishes the grandmother sleep well, and greet the grandmother her before going to school. The behaviors are small, but they show the filial piety that is being nourished every day. One woman said she have to go to work all day to make money, but almost every evening she comes home to eat with her parents. Not only paying attention to health and medicine for them, she also shares housework and talk with them …
Many other people blame the situation and create a lot of heartache around filial piety. Some family have many children, but their parents still stay with the maids and every week and month the children give money to their parents and regarding it as sufficient duty. Recently, more and more tragic stories about the abuse of older people have occurred. According to many statistics, the number of domestic violence cases against parents is increasing, which is alarming. Many children expelled their old parents, even brutally beating their parents … because their parents are considered burdensome. This is sadness in modern society.Another person said that although he is busy, every year he spends a certain period of time to return to hometown to cook his mother’s favorite dishes, talks with her and goes out with her. His siblings, whether living everywhere, always arrange their work alternately so that at least one lives with their mother. Ông tâm sự: Nếu thuê người, thuê dịch vụ chăm sóc, gia đình ông cũng thừa sức, nhưng điều He said his family is affordable to hire helpers and care services, but can it make their parents live happily in the last days of their life? But the modern life is getting busier with more and more difficulties in livelihood and the independence is appreciated, so the distance between the parents and the children is large. Even although living in a same house, the family members have no time to talk. So, the material filial piety is also expressed more. Many people buy furniture or something for their parents, or give them money every month, and regard these as the sufficient duty of filial piety.
According to many researchers about family and traditional values, filial piety must first derive from the love, concern, responsibility and education of parents toward children. Filial piety has changed in terms of its expression, but still based on equality and democracy, sharing and psychology. Many parents raise their children kindly, so the children behave kindly to their parents, which is not only responsibility but also the obligation of each child.
In the discussion around “Contemporary Filial piety,” psychological experts have pointed out that paradoxically, children are demanding a lot from their parents, but little interest and love. . Many people are willing to spend many hours sitting with their friends, eating or surfing web and facebook, or playing games … but never talk or cook the dishes for their parents. If they receive a little help from their friends, they can implant it in their mind, but give few thanks to their parents because they considered as obvious. With the speedy pace of life, many people regret after their parents are gone because they did not treat their parents well whey their parents are alive.
Filial piety is the foundation for happiness, has educational effect and is the best example for next generations in a family. Life is always changing but always have fundamental and core values which remain unchanged every time. It is essential that each family builds and preserves the common values for its members to create a strong bond. “Do not wait until tomorrow, because … the next day can never come,” it was the message of the experts in the fact that many children do not treat their parents well, but cry and spend a lot of money to organize the large funerals and death anniversaries as their filial piety.